Chapter 5: Misunderstanding

"Misunderstandings are the inevitable wounds of imperfect communication"_ Bryan McGill.

The greatest misunderstandings in life arise when we fail to communicate clearly and expect others to read our minds. There have been many situations where I have been misunderstood, not because of how others interpreted my words, but because of my own mistakes in phrasing things correctly. Just yesterday, I made a statement that was misunderstood, and instead of correcting it and explaining what I actually meant, I went along with it, refusing to admit I was wrong. These kinds of small misunderstandings can change how people perceive you and diminish the respect they have for you.

When college started, I expected everyone to understand me even when I didn’t express myself clearly because my friends in school always did. I now realize there is nothing wrong with admitting I was wrong. I’ve always had a good reputation wherever I go, and I foolishly assumed people would always interpret my words in a positive way. Instead of taking their responses constructively, I often take them to heart and spend the rest of the day questioning myself. I am also afraid of people speaking poorly about me behind my back, which is likely to happen if I don’t admit and accept my mistakes.

I realize that these misunderstandings can ruin a beautiful friendship or any relationship in general. The lesson I have learned is to admit my mistakes and not expect people to always understand my words perfectly. I am deeply grateful to my friends who taught me this. I especially appreciate the one who said, “If you say she killed someone, I can only take it that way. I can't take it in any other way," which made me realize my mistake.

Think from others' perspectives and admit your mistakes without feeling embarrassed, even when it’s difficult. Misunderstandings happen, but it’s up to you to admit and correct them.

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